The Alpha and the pack.

Only women, children and dogs are loved unconditionally. Men however are only loved, on condition that they provide something.

Chris Rock

I’ll have to begin by agreeing with Chris Rock. That a man is judged on his ability to provide. It might not be money or wealth. It could be comfort , security or whatever but every man must endure and strive to provide. ⚠

However, in a radically shifting feminist society, the ‘man’ has to endeavour to find his own way. While women are given opportunities, men have to find those opportunities. Boys are overlooked to empower the girlchild as if it is still 1960 and there is no education for women. At some point reality dawns and the ‘boy’ has to navigate his way into the ‘man’.💡

Statistics don’t lie and it is reported that about 75% of suicide deaths the past year were middle aged men. Compelled with pressures of struggling careers, relationships, missed goals and shuttered dreams. Most of those men either did not seek help or didn’t even know where to seek the help in the first instance. 📶

Nevertheless, the living men have to be better. That’s why the alpha needs the pack and vice versa. Before all the glee and euphoria in motivational speakers and mental health blogs, a man needs his friends. His friends influence more than 85% of a man’s decisions, either directly or indirectly according to a study. A man is always either proving a point, or seeking validation.

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All men are dogs😅, might as well be wolves.

For that reason, the choice of friends is the optimum solution to mental health. No rocket science is needed to discern that if you have five businessmen as friends you’ll be the sixth, if you have five sportsmen as friends you’ll be the fifth, just like if you have five alcoholic friends …

It is International men’s day and what better day to assess your pack. The pack is the strength of the alpha. 💪

For the men.

No simping, no shying.

Seek, tell, own.

Happy international men’s day 🍻.